I never was the type that could walk down an aisle with people sitting left and right of me. My head would literally spin, the ground will seem as if it was moving in between steps and I had to hold my ear lobe for balance and anxiety purposes in every social setting. The problem was, I cared way too much about what people thought of me. But looking back, I don’t know why I did. They didn’t even see me anyway.
Today, I still get social anxiety when I wonder about what people are thinking of me. It’s always going to be there, but you need to have control over it and not vice versa. Have you ever tried that experiment where you start thinking that everyone is looking at you? Only then do you actually start noticing them staring at you? You become biased. That’s what it is! Listen, ain’t nobody care ‘bout you hunny!
Here are some of the things I personally did to overcome social anxiety that you can also do to overcome yours. In order to overcome social anxiety, you need to:
Pinpoint what you are feeling and why.
People call this naming, labelling, and identifying your emotion. As you are you using your brain to process what is going on, you are using your feelings less and will gain clarity of the scenario. Guess what? Now you are less overwhelmed!
Have confidence in who you are and what you do by practicing being confident.
Participate in activities that boost up your confidence. Such as take a dance class, join a team sport, participate in public speaking, or join a choir. You will definitely break a sweat doing these. However, you will also grow from it.
Read more on confidence.
Remember that nobody really cares about you.
Everybody in the room is just like you. They are battling their social anxiety as well. Nobody cares about you unless they are there for you because they are too focused on their selves. You know what, every human being has their own craziness going on in their head! As a matter of fact, reassure yourself that you might be part of the better portion of people in the room despite what it may look like.
Voila! 3 simple steps to overcoming social anxiety that I have tried and are true. Easier said than done! I know that. However, practice this and watch you not even remember having social anxiety.
BY: Edith Berko
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