I am inclined to share some life advice that everybody needs to hear. If you were to ask me, Edith give me some life advice, well this is the article for you.
Stay Prayed Up
The first advice I will give anybody in life is this one. Where do I want to be in the next 6 months, 1 year, 5 years, or 10 years? Pray about it! As a young adult, you are making big fundamental decisions in life. You are deciding what life will consist of and you are also discovering who you are and what your purpose is in life. Stay prayed up. Good decisions can look bad and bad decisions can look good. Prayer helps give you direction and clarity.
Many seem successful without prayer but what are you measuring success by? What is going on in their insides, in the privacy of their life? Are they happy and satisfied in life? Do they know what they are doing? Do they have security? With all that they claim to be successful from and by is that actually their purpose? There is a difference between what you are supposed to be doing and what you can do. The two often confuse us. Set a timer and pray for 5 mins daily. That’s a step in the right direction.
The second piece of advice is a major key. Wait for your spouse. Do no casual dating thing. Nothing good comes out of it. I am saving you time, heartbreaks, and unnecessary emotional wear and tear. Everyone is selling it as a good thing to casually date and to force yourself into a relationship. Let me let you in on a little secret about dating, relationships, and all these casual flings. A majority of people are in it for themselves, for what they need and not for what they have to offer. They don't even realize they selfishly want you but not to give you unconditional love. Once, you can not offer what they need there is now a problem!
Everybody talks about how it is good for the experience. Tell me what experience!? You now know how to kiss a man so you won’t mess up when you kiss your husband for the first time? You now know how it is to be cheated on so you will never cheat on somebody? Bruh you’re broken. You now know what true love is but you’re hurting because true love didn’t stay? Tell me what good experience? You finally find your spouse but you are carrying some very heavy emotional baggage and past memories of good times. You use this to play a comparison game. The way I see it, everything you gain from past relationships becomes a burden in the blessing God has given you. Trust God and take the time to date yourself. Get to know yourself. Develop you. Become a better person. Make sure you have something to offer the world. Find yourself. Don’t break yourself.
Trust Your Gut Feeling
Never ignore it. It’s your intuition letting you know that this is it or it’s telling you to run. In all honesty, it takes practice to find and recognize your gut feeling’s voice. Can we even say that? The advice of your intuition puts aside the opinions of others and tells you what is really best for you.
Do Not Go in Debt
Do not drown yourself in debt, please. It sounds obvious but it is so easy to do when you are young and hopeful. If you don’t have it right now, you cannot afford it right now. If you want to build your credit, as they often tell us to do as young adults, I would say have the money and the credit card. As soon as you use the credit card you pay the debt because you actually have the money. Now you are building good credit and not bad credit. Save your money. Invest your money. Be wise. Do not fall into the trap of having debt and living your life to pay it off. All the while other people are making a profit off of you paying your debt.
There was a lot of time, emotions, hard work wasted, and thrown out the window. Yes, I’ve lived and I’ve learned. But I’ve also accumulated a whole bunch of unnecessary baggage that I could have lived a life without. So please, stay prayed up, date yourself, follow your gut feeling, and be smart about your money.
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