Many times, I have sat in the pews and listened to preaching after preaching, week after week and said to myself, this is exactly what I need to spark my breakthrough. I have read self-development blogs, watched motivational speakers, and listened to amazing powerful spoken words. Every single time, right in that moment I am motivated to become a better person. I am ready to run off and apply what I have learnt from these people. Only to look back a few days later and realize I am still where I was right before I heard such amazing guidelines for a breakthrough in my situation. I tell you, I have read a lot and heard a lot, but I can now tell you that reading, hearing, and listening does not necessarily give you the breakthrough that you need. It takes a little bit more to spark your breakthrough. It takes action. As a now experienced hearer, listener, and reader I am sharing 5 things to not do that will in turn help you create a breakthrough.
1. Do not hang around people who do not have the same goals as you.
These people are not going to help you reach your goal. It’s already hard enough dealing with yourself and its old ways. You really don’t want people around who are encouraging you to stay in the old way that you are seeking a breakthrough from. They may never say it with their mouth, but you have to be quite attentive of the actions of the people around you. Not everybody sees what you see and not everybody understands what you are trying to do.
2. Do not wait on someone to twist your arm and make you do it.
That’s like looking for a savior. Once the person is gone you might end up right where you started because maybe you didn’t like your arms being twisted. So, you only did it to get rid of them. I know that is me with my parents. I only did the bare minimum so they could stop the nagging. However, without the nagging I never actually do it for myself. That probably works on kids still being trained and brought up. Yet it won't work on grown men and women who are stuck in their ways. We are looking for a real breakthrough.
3. Do not underestimate your weaknesses.
In order for change to occur in your life, you need to understand what is blocking it. Our weaknesses block us over and over again when we underestimate it. This is a big one. You may not even realize that you are underestimating your weakness. That is essentially deceiving yourself. You need to understand your weakness, why is it a weakness and how are you going to remove it. Ie: procrastination – you know you have a very bad habit of procrastinating and that is the actual source of all your low grades in school. You do not need a tutor. You do not have a studying disability. You simply are underestimating your procrastination. Get a hold of it!
4. Do not try to make your desired breakthrough make sense to everybody.
As mentioned in step 1, not everybody sees what you see and not everybody understands what you are trying to do. You know what you need in your personal life. So, go for it! You do not need someone to reassure you that it is ok and that what you are thinking, and feeling is actually right. Do you!
5. Do not expect it to happen overnight.
Old ways die hard. Since they die hard, your breakthrough won’t happen overnight. However, it can spark overnight. They say slow and steady wins the race. It takes 30 days of practice to instill something new in your life. That’s 30 nights! So be patient. Continue working on it little by little.
Simple when read. Motivational when paid attention to. More profitable when actual action is taken.
By: Edith Berko
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